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Pain is Not your Fault

It’s not your fault.  Let me say that again . . . Pain is not your fault.  I don’t care if people or you say that you did something stupid, or that you don’t take good enough care of yourself.  Pain comes in all forms and does not go away just because you do everything “right”.  Pain is part of life.  It is part of being human.  You can gain lessons from it and learn about yourself, about your limits and your amazing resources.  You can find out what purpose it serves in understanding your body/mind/spirit AND it is not your fault.  You jumped out of the plane, you took a desk job, you didn’t eat right, you ate all the right things, you were driving home, a sudden illness happens and now you have chronic pain.  It is not your fault.

“Why is this happening to me?” Is a reframe I hear often, both inside my own mind and from others.  We as humans are meaning makers. We search for meaning when none may exist.  We see patterns when it may never be a pattern we can comprehend from our perspective.  That is not to say that there aren’t patterns and meaning to unravel.  Sometimes it is more important to step back and see things for what they are.  Get out of the angst of wishing it were different and acknowledge and accept that pain exists.  It can have a profound effect on how we experience life and our abilities.  Pain can be transitory or life transformational.  What we do with the pain and how we recognize the wholeness of our selves and our lives can be very empowering.

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