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Today is the best day to start to thrive!

Are you are ready to move beyond suffering and blame? Then discover the 5 steps from Ow to Wow!  And work with Amber Rose Dullea from Thriving with Pain LLC and see yourself thriving!

Through these steps you may find pain relief and more energy, but no matter what your circumstances are, you can thrive.  I remember a day when I took a friend to her doctor’s appointment while she was going through treatment for an aggressive kind of breast cancer.  The sunshine stopped her in her tracks, she looked up and drank in the light and heat and with a joyous and serene smile she said, “Doesn’t that just feel wonderful!”  In that moment, she was present and had no sense of blame or suffering even though she had pain, fatigue, and was facing her mortality.

How can you find your way to that moment; to thriving? The 5 steps from Ow to Wow! take you through a dynamic dance of fighting your disease, taking action including resting, being in the moment, and engaging with something larger than yourself. You focus on manageable steps that empower your healing.

1)   Become an expert on you!

Pain is a symptom—this means that only you can report about it.  With pain it can be difficult to remember what you felt like in the morning not to mention last week.  With the tracker you can begin to see patterns through doing reports.  You can do mindfulness exercises to increase your ability to notice yourself—be it energy, pain, emotions, thoughts.  What is most important is that you are empowered to become an active participant in your healing.  To know yourself is important.  If you are newly diagnosed, this can also mean getting to know how fibromyalgia is affecting you.  Since it is so cyclical with good days and bad days, it is not a static picture.

2)   Find and try treatment options!

A multidisciplinary approach seems to be the key for treating fibromyalgia.  That brings with it challenges of communication with your healthcare practitioner and your ability to know what is working.  When you go to any practitioner they know what they practice best.  If you go to an MD they are most likely going to prescribe medications.  These can include pain relievers, anti-inflammatories, muscle relaxants, anti depressants, or the newer “fibro” drugs.  You may even get sleep aids.  If you are lucky, you might get referred to other practitioners that can support you in different ways.  Physical therapists, nutritionist, chiropractor, acupuncturist, naturopaths, massage therapists, occupational therapists, psychologist, counselor and physical trainers may be among your team.  Communicating, advocating, and just remembering can be a challenge for anyone.

Use tools such as your treatment plan within FibroTrack, a support person at your appointments to take notes and remember what you want to talk about, and continuing to explore options are important.  New treatments pop up all the time, if you haven’t found something that works yet, there are new developments all the time.

3)   Ask for and accept support

Support is important in reducing isolation, depression and in living life to the fullest.  Knowing what would be supportive is a challenge for some of us and it can change from day-to-day.  That is why the first step is so important.  What kind of support will help you  be empowered to take action when needed and to pace yourself when appropriate?  How do you effectively ask for it? A coach or a therapist can support you through this process.  It is one of the challenges of living with Fibromyalgia—to need support and not be “able” to do certain things anymore; whether that is physically, mentally, or emotionally.  Yet there are times we need to do for ourselves when we can and to even support others.

4)   Engage your passions and/or serve something larger than yourself

Re-engage with your life as it is now.  For many our lives get smaller and smaller.  Friends and activities may fall away as you fight the fibro and as you find your balance.  You might find that what you loved to do is no longer possible or hurts you. A time of grief is needed and a time to find new interests, or twists on old passions, or creative outlets or service is the beginning of living your new life.  It is possible!  Many have found solace and joy in something unexpected as a result.

5)   Live mindfully and accept what is now and thrive

Mindfulness is about being present in each moment.  Pain is a sensation that usually triggers our fight or flight response.  We compensate for it.  These are normal and expected reactions.  When you live with chronic pain, fatigue, fibro fog, or whatever other symptoms make up your experience, that “normal” response is no longer helpful.  Instead it keeps us in that chronic pain cycle. Being mindful is about noticing and accepting what is without judgment.  Learning how to be mindful can be stress relieving tool.  With that skill you can catch harmful thoughts, emotions and behaviors that may be adding to your suffering.

Taking these steps will change your life!  It is a framework for healing and you will find answers on managing and living fully.  Having a coach on your side can be invaluable at any point in the process.


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